How can I Reduce my Compulsive Spending Habits?

Last week I wrote about how a lack of money management predicts individuals’ compulsive spending, regardless of their personality, gender, age, and income. These results were based on a study (Sadness, Identity, and Plastic in Over-shopping) published in the Journal of Economic Psychologywhich was conducted with two students of mine former (Grant Donnelly and Masha Ksendzova).

I received quite a few emails and there were a number of follow-up questions people wanted to ask. So, I decided to ask Masha to answer the top five most popular questions:

Confessions of a Shopaholic

What drives materialists to buy compulsively? Our study suggests that materialists are more likely to be compulsive buyers (although not all compulsive buyers are necessarily materialists) because they don’t manage their credit as well as general consumers, believe that purchases will transform their lives, and buy for emotional relief. If people are materialistic, it means that they value the acquisition of tangible products and believe those products will bring them happiness. If the same individuals do not regulate their credit use, they loosen the reins on their spending – they can shop as much as they want without a real restraint. If we add retail therapy into the mix, and the promise of a purchase to improve one’s life and self, then we have a recipe for consumer disaster.

Why do shopaholics, as they’ve been called, overspend? If we’re talking about compulsive buyers, the ones who suffer terrible financial and emotional consequences from their shopping behavior, then most researchers will tell you that these individuals shop in reponse to negative emotions or negative awareness of the self. Shopping is something to do, but it is mindless. It is engaging mentally, but requires little effort. If people value material possessions, the idea of going to the mall over doing something else is more likely to pop up in their minds at the moment of low self-esteem. If these people have credit cards and are too focused on the promise of their purchases instead of future financial consequences, they can get engage in out-of-control spending. With a slide of a credit card and delayed payment, we don’t experience the same psychological impact of parting with money – we get excited about a purchase now, face the pain of acknowledging our spending behavior later, and don’t learn as well from this cause-and-effect relationship. Some people value material things, and they take this value to the extreme when they have the right tools.

What role do credit cards play in compulsive buying? With a slide of a credit card and delayed payment, we don’t experience the same psychological impact of parting with money – we get excited about a purchase now, face the pain of acknowledging our spending behavior later, and don’t learn as well from this cause-and-effect relationship. Credit cards get rid of restraints, both of actual money and our psychological discomfort of spending it. When we handle cash, we physically part with it, and our awareness of spending money increases. The consequence is immediate. When we use a debit card, we can think of our balance dropping to an eventual zero – there is a real bottom to hit. When we slide the credit card, we can delay the consequences – we can stick our heads in the sand like ostriches. 

Does bad credit management come from ignorance or is it intentional? It is somewhat intentional ignorance. Rationally speaking,  people who value possessions should be MOST concerned with managing their money for one simple reason – with better financial standing, they can buy more! However, they would have to pace themselves and buy less first. This behavior doesn’t mix well with the frantic desire for a quick fix of identity and emotion in the now. However, because some individuals really value money, they have trouble facing the fact that they’re not spending it wisely or that they just don’t have it. There’s something in psychology called “the ostrich effect,” and it suggests we pay more attention to good information and try to limit our awareness of the bad. We also call it “the pain of knowing,” which may be so debilitating that individuals would rather ignore their debts than face them. When the overspending is extreme enough to be considered compulsive buying, individuals experience a great deal of guilt and sometimes go as far as hiding their purchases out of sight. These individuals understand there is something wrong with their behavior, but may be too scared  to face reality, and “sticking their heads in the sand” only perpetuates the problem.

What can be done to help with compulsive spending habits? If someone fills out a clinical screener and turns out to be a compulsive buyer instead of a casual overspender, then counselling and professional help. Most often, compulsive buyers experience a great deal of negative emotion, and the actual shopping isn’t the root of their problem. That’s where therapy comes in. If people just want to spend money more wisely, we urge them to shop using cash or at least debit, not to buy immediately (instead, take a break between deciding on a purchase and actually getting it, walk around the store or save the page if shopping online), and question their motivations – will this item really make you happier, make people like you better, and make you feel more self-confident, or is it just something the media wants you to think? Do you really need it?

At BeyondThePurchase.Org we help people make the connection between their spending habits – how do you spend your money and who do you spend it on – and their happiness. To learn about what might be influencing how you think about and spend your money, Login or Register with Beyond The Purchase, then take a few of our spending habits quizzes:

How do your current priorities impact what you buy? Take our Life Goals and Buying Choices and on your feedback page you will learn you will learn how current priorities impact what you buy.

How does your expected happiness impact what you buy? Take our Forecasting your Happiness and on your feedback page you will learn if happiness matters more when you are buying a life experiences or a material item.

How materialistic are you? Find out by taking the Materialistic Values Scale.

Are you a compulsive buyer? Take the Compulsive Buying Scale and learn about your spending habits.

With these insights, you can better understand the ways in which your financial decisions affect your happiness.

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